This will be a place for random thoughts and musings, family news, and notes about travels, and everyday life -- an experiment.
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Christmas Greetings 2007
Dear Friends and Family,
It is hard to write this year’s letter without the help of my first reader, editor, proofreader, best friend, and life partner. Ed’s death on June 2 utterly changed my life. The adjustment is ongoing. He lives in my thoughts and memories every day. We were blessed with 30 wonderful years together. I haven’t yet figured out what’s next. I have been busier than ever, which is in some ways a blessing.
We had a couple of trips before Ed became too ill to travel, with two days in Santa Fe in January and a lovely week at Ixtapan de la Sal, a spa south of Mexico City in February. Psyche came at Easter, and Julia and Michael came in May. I was touched that all seven of the living children came for the memorial mass in June.
In late June, I went to
I have continued to work on genealogy. Perusing old Swedish church records and discovering names and facts has helped me feel connected to those who have gone before. I’ve also scanned many old family photos, some unidentified, which can be found at http://www.flickr.com/photos/manga_mom/
November took me to
Jesse continues to make his living as a free-lance artist. He comes over now and then to cook dinner for me (and do his laundry). His art can be seen at: http://www.miniml.net/jesse/
Psyche continues in her job with Hellman and Friedman in
I enjoy my half-time job as elementary school librarian, or as I like to say, the job I’m paid to do half-time. Another teacher, Susan Fuller, has been renting part of the guesthouse since fall, and it is great to have company and someone to look after the animals when I go away. I still have one sheep, three chickens, bees, two cats, and Bert, the dog. I planted some tulip and crocus bulbs the other day, just before several days of rain and snow, so I am hoping to see flowers in springtime. Life is still good, although greatly changed. Every day is a challenge, a mix of tears and joy.
When I drove to
Finally, two poems, the first, by Emily Dickinson, the second by me.
After great pain a formal feeling comes--
The nerves sit ceremonious like tombs;
The stiff Heart questions--was it He that bore?
And yesterday--or centuries before?
The feet, mechanical, go round
A wooden way
Of ground, or air, or ought,
Regardless grown,
A quartz contentment, like a stone.
This is the hour of lead
Remembered if outlived,
As freezing persons recollect the snow--
First chill, then stupor, then the letting go.
Cereal in the Morning
I can almost smell it now,
The oatmeal or the cream of wheat
Sifting into the boiling water
Ready when I came out
Perhaps already slightly cold.
“Ah, cream of wheat,” I’d say
Your spoon clinking in the bowl as you finished yours.
God’s blessings on all of us, as we continue on our journeys into the unknown.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Family Reunion September 30. 2007
Members of the Olson-Hendrickson-Erickson-Bergquist-Peterson-Arrowood families gathered on September 30, 2007 at the Bethlehem Covenant Church in Palestine, Stephenson, Michigan, to which our common families originally belonged, to share a meal, memories, and photos. The group photo turned out rather blurry, alas.
Here is a bit of family history:
John Hendrickson departed from
The marriage of Hulda and Pastor John Hendrickson in 1893 united the families of the Bergquists, Hendricksons, and John Olsons. John Hendrickson served the Humboldt Park Covenant Church in Chicago, was an itinerant preacher, founded the church in Ironwood, and was Pastor of the Bethlehem Covenant Church in Palestine (Stephenson) from 1903 to 1911.
John Hendrickson died in Ironwood on February 28, 1915, the day after his 55th birthday, leaving Hulda with six children: Hugo, Milton, Marion, Leonard, Cornelia, and Gerald. Hulda remained active in the life of her family and the community until her death in 1973 at the age of 98.
John Erickson served on the board of the church for many years, and the minutes often noted that he closed the meetings with a prayer. Christina died in 1895, and according to her granddaughter Viola Olson, was one of the first buried in the church cemetery. I have not been able to find a picture of Christina. There are several of John, however, a tall strong man who died in 1914.
Olof Olson and his brother Charles arrived in the 1896 from Markaryd in Småland. Olof married John Erickson’s daughter
Two children of John and Hulda, Milton and Cornelia, married members of the Arrowood family (Mary and Frank). Marion married Henry Bruemmer, and Gerald married Senia Suokko. Hugo, who served on the front lines in Alsace, fighting in battles of the Marne, and Meuse Argonne in World War I, never married, and preceded his mother in death.
I know many of us have photos or other early documents to share. Mary Ann and I have scanned many of them. Jo Anne Arrowood Swanson and I have put many of them on Flickr on the internet for all to see, add to, and comment on. The web address is
http://www.flickr.com/groups/hendrickson/
"We are standing on the shoulders of the giants who left us such a beautiful heritage. They were intent on peace and security. They carried their supplies from the tracks -- five miles or more -- from the place now known as Stephenson. They crossed the river on a log carrying 5 gallons of kerosene and 100 pound sacks of flour. Many trips were made."
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Saturday, August 25, 2007
My Dad is a Balloon that I Let Go
My Dad is a balloon that I let go, floating up into the white fluffy clouds in the blue sky. He got smaller and smaller as he got closer to heaven. After I lost sight of him, I kept looking among the clouds for the tiny speck that was my Dad. Now I look for him everywhere.
I look for him in Linnea’s face. She and my Dad took on many of each other’s mannerisms over 30 years of intimacy. She also has so much of his history in her head. They raised two children, coped with plumbing emergencies, drove across
I look for him in the mirror. His eyes look thoughtfully back at me from my reflection. They tell me that he loved me and took good care of me. They tell me that my virtues are commendable and my vices don’t matter very much. They tell me to stay close to Linnea, to visit Jesse and Psyche, and to take good care of my husband and children.
His eyes tell me that death isn’t so bad, and to be grateful for all that I have done with my life, as he was grateful for his life. – Julia Philips, August 22, 2007
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Poem for the Wake
A Poem for Ed Philips
by Ross Burkhardt
June 16, 2007
81 trips around the sun:
Ed's sweet journey now is done
A year ago we celebrated
With folks to whom he was related
And friends from far, and also near,
Many of whom now reappear
To pay their last respects and mourn
This gentle fellow who was born
Four score years ago plus one
For Ed's sweet journey now is done.
As summer days drift towards September
What is it that we'll remember?
Bert and Wagga, goats and sheep,
Gathering eggs, naps for sleep,
Fragile glassware, politics,
The New York Times, symphony tix,
Salmon dinners, cooking bacon,
Festivities always in the makin'
Voyages down to Mexico,
Off to Greece Ed did go,
Spain, Japan, England, Oz -
Traveling was a noble cause.
So here we are, an Irish wake -
Thank you all, for dear Ed's sake.
Now's the time to share your story
Honoring Ed in all his glory.
Step right up, tell a tale
About this most amazing male.
This is your chance, don't be shy,
Even if you make us cry.
For we deserve to have some fun
Now that Ed's sweet journey's done.
Tributes to Ed from the Memorial Service
REMARKS BY KAREN NYSTROM AT ED’S FUNERAL MASS
A while back on a long road trip, we listened to a book on tape entitled Kim by Rudyard Kipling. The story was set in
Tribute to Ed
Craig Werner
For June 16, 2007
Julia wrote this when she attended the caregivers writing group during the week that Ed was in the hospital, and read it at the Memorial Mass on June 16.
My Dad’s eyes are still the same—a living pool of humor, kindness, and self-deprecation. He doesn’t want to die, and he doesn’t want to be in pain, and he doesn’t want to trouble anyone. He wants to take care of himself.
My Dad is still full of hope. He wants to go home, and he wants to eat good food, make jokes at the dinner table, and pet the dog.
My Dad is afraid of not being able to breathe, and he is afraid of embarrassment and of pain.
My Dad has let go of some things. He doesn’t complain about people any more, except George W. Bush. He is very cooperative with the nurses and doctors. I am not like that yet. I want to correct them, refuse to do things on his behalf. But it’s not my decision.
May 3, 2007
Ross Burkhardt recited poems and shared these comments:
Our first speaker this morning, Karen Nystrom, referred to Ed by citing a line from a Robert Frost poem. I suspect that Frost might have had someone like Ed in mind when he composed these words:
The Road Not Taken
by Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
My name is Ross Burkhardt, and I live in Las Cruces with my wife, Jeanne. Many people have spoken of the adventures they had with Ed, and his voyages all over the world. Jeanne and I were fortunate to travel with Ed and Linnea on several occasions. We went to England and lived in a 17th century thatched cottage, where Ed cooked meat using a Raeburn stove -- the crackle was delicious. We purchased pottery in Mata Ortiz, Mexico, near the ruins of Paquime. We toured Trinity Site one cold October day, and we birded at the Bosque del Apache many times. We also enjoyed extravagent tail-gate dinners at the Santa Fe Opera.
A nineteenth century poem by Lord Byron speaks to these adventures, and to our sadness and sense of loss:
We'll Go No More A-Roving
by George Gordon Lord Byron
So, we'll go no more a-roving
So late into the night,
Though the heart be still as loving,
And the moon be still as bright.
For the sword outwears its sheath,
And the soul wears out the breast,
And the heart must pause to breathe,
And love itself have rest.
Though the night was made for loving,
And the day returns too soon,
Yet we'll go no more a-roving
By the light of the moon.
Monday, June 18, 2007
Prayer of the Faithful
Prayer of the Faithful
Leader: In Thanksgiving for Ed’s life, a life spent loving and supporting family, friends, and students in many ways, we pray.
Memorial Mass, 16 June 2007
Order of Service
Musical Prelude
Welcoming Rite
Processional Song: #630 Morning Has Broken
Greeting and Opening Prayer: I Thank You God, for this Most
Amazing Day by E.E. Cummings
(read at Ed and Linnea’s wedding on May 29, 1977)
Liturgy of the Word
First reading: Ecclesiastes 3:1-11 To Every Thing There Is a Season
Responsorial Psalm #437 On Eagle’s Wings Psalm 91
Second reading: I Corinthians 13 Though I speak with the Tongues of
Men and Angels
Gospel Acclamation: #374 Celtic Alleluia
Gospel: Matthew 5:1-11 The Beatitudes
Homily & Tributes by Family & Friends
Prayer of the Faithful
Liturgy of the Eucharist
Presentation of the Gifts by Family & Friends
Song: #628 Rain Down
Holy, Memorial Acclamation, Great Amen, Lord's Prayer: RECITED
Sign of Peace
Lamb of God: RECITED
Communion
Communion Songs: #549 Shall We Gather at the River
and #205 Dona Nobis Pacem
Final commendation, Song of Farewell, Prayer of commendation
Song: Going Home from Dvorak’s New World Symphony
Song of Sending
Musical Postlude: Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring J.S. Bach
(played at Ed & Linnea’s wedding)
In Memoriam: George Edward Philips, 1926-2007
Philips, 81, Professor Emeritus at the
He was born May 29, 1926 in
Known for his kindness and generosity, Ed devoted much of his life to raising his children, putting all seven through college. He loved children, animals, travel, music, cigars and drink, good conversation, collecting wine glasses and reading about science and current events. Ed was also an excellent cook and was proud of the happy flock of laying hens in his
Ed is survived by his wife of 30 years, Linnea Hendrickson; children, John Philips and wife Ritsuko Miyamoto, Julia Philips and husband James Feldman, Michael Philips and wife Marguerite, Catherine Malavé, Joan Philips and husband Jin Tai Li, Jesse Philips and Psyche Philips; grandchildren, Andrew, Laura, Carolyn, Amina, Joe, Anthony, Daniel, Alejandro and Mei. He is also survived by his brother Robert Philips and wife Marie. He was preceded in death by his parents, brothers John and Donald (Pete), sister Edith and his son, Joseph.
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Monday, May 14, 2007
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Ed Update May 12, 2007
Footnote:
This morning in Nia class we danced to this oldie from 1956, sung in an Alfred Hitchcock movie, “The Man Who Knew Too Much,” starring Doris Day and James Stewart. Happy Mother’s Day!
Que Sera Sera
(Lyrics by Ray Evans, Music by Jay Livingston, sung by Doris Day)
When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.
Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.
When I was young, I fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows, day after day
Here's what my sweetheart said.
Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.
Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother, what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
I tell them tenderly.
Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Saturday, March 10, 2007
Historical Family Photos
Here is a slightly more recent picture (but still old!) of my brother John and me sitting together in a lawn chair in 1950. This was scanned from a very badly faded color print. I'm still trying to figure out the best way to make these badly faded and yellowed prints more visible. Don't you love the saddle shoes, red socks, and matching hair ribbons, and John's suspenders?
Mexico
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Saturday, January 27, 2007
Ed Update January
Ed had his check-up and chemotherapy as scheduled this past Wednesday, January 24. He is doing well – no change in his condition according to the doctor and his reports. This is good news. So far, the effects of Wednesday’s chemo have not hit him – that is good, too. The past couple of times he has felt terrible from Friday afternoon through the Saturday following Wednesday chemo.
Friday, January 5, 2007
For Additional Photos
Manga_Mom's photos on Flickr
http://www.flickr.com/photos/manga_mom/
Jesse's Flickr photos
http://www.flickr.com/photos/1shtar/
Albluquerque Snow of the Century Group
http://www.flickr.com/groups/72055175@N00/